In 2013 game of thrones just do it love muyosan

No Need To Say It. Just Do It

This is not a Nike promo

"I love you".

Those 3 simple words have inspired victories, calmed the fiercest storms, won the toughest battles, saved millions of lives. They've also started the most gruesome of wars and caused the deaths of millions. Those 3 words scare the heck out of me.

It's no longer a secret that I can't commit to anything. One of my biggest fears is that I may never live up to those 3 simple words. Maybe it's just me, but I feel like they're thrown around a little too easily these days. I admit I'm just as guilty as anyone else.

How can you tell that you truly love someone? Is love really "true" or is the idea of "true love" just as true as Santa is real? I mean, how do childhood sweethearts get married and still end up divorced, after a lifetime of knowing each other ? How do you explain best friends becoming worst enemies, parents selling off their children and business partners become arch-rivals?

In the epic TV series, Game of Thrones, after John Snow and Ygritte narrowly escaped death at the hands of a fellow wildling, the culprit, Orell had this to say in his defense:
People work together when it suits them. They're loyal when it suits them, love each other when it suits them and they kill each other when it suits them. 
Cynical as it sounds, if we're honest with ourselves and analyse our past encounters with love, we'll find there's a lot of truth in Orell's words.

The truth is that we humans are very imperfect. That's why we always have to strive towards perfection, however elusive, in all that we engage in. Human love, just like every other human endeavour, is imperfect. But thanks to Hollywood, a lot of us have come to expect otherwise.

Love is a lot of hard work. Love is not some simple fuzzy feeling that's solely powered by such feeble ideas as chemistry, great sex, following your instincts or just "going with the flow". Love doesn't stay happy ever after unless you make it. Love is everything in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and more. That's a lot of hard work men.

 We can put in the extra hours to make that extra cash, or ace that difficult exam, but we're hardly ever inspired to do the same for love. As far as we're concerned, just like Hollywood has taught us, love comes easy. So to further simplify it, we reduce it to just 3 simple words - "I love you". As if saying those words as often as we can, is confirmation enough of how we truly feel.

Now I'm not concluding that it's wrong to tell someone you love them. I just think it's  important you're sure you mean it.
And how do you know if you really mean it? Simple answer, you don't. So rather than keep saying it, why not keep doing it? A little bit of hard work never killed anyone but too much of talking could. Love is work and just like any other work, you'll never get anywhere by talking more and doing less.

No need to say it, just do it.
I've made up my mind to say less and do more from now on. I challenge you to  do the same. They say the key to every successful relationship is to under-promise and over-deliver. It is better not to say "I love you", but still do "I love you", than to say it, yet never do it.

I leave you with the lyrics from probably the greatest love song ever written. It's titled "More than Words" by a band called Extreme (interesting band name).

Muyo-san is one random Nigerian dude who also blogs at
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  1. Muyo!!!!!! you truly have ended my week thinking soo much... my dad once told me that love indeed is a lot of actions. THANKS mUYO


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